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What’s in a Name?

Years ago, a good friend of mine got a divorce from his wife.  This, in and of itself, was nothing of notice, except for the fact that the then ex-wife KEPT his name.  I must confess to lacking the knowledge of the intricacies’ and protocols of divorcees and their preferences, except to note that one seldom keep a name of a person one despises.

Well, this was not one of those cases.  In fact, for the next ten or so years, the ex-wife used the former husband’s last name professionally.  It seemed odd, but people went with it.

Last evening, I logged onto Facebook (simultaneously the greatest and most evil of all inventions) to see a suggestion of “People You May Know,” of said ex-wife, who appears to have remarried.

Not only has she still kept my friend’s name, but now she has also hyphenated.  WTF?!?!  I’m sorry, but that’s just effed up!


3 responses to “What’s in a Name?

  1. Eric August 30, 2010 at 2:54 PM

    damn some people just cannot let go. LOL

  2. Julie August 31, 2010 at 11:05 AM

    Let me guess – said ex-wife was younger than 25 when when they got married and divorced? Having worked with college age women for almost ten years in both volunteer and professional capacities, it appears that in this day and age some young women lack the ability to self-identify in their youth. One coping mechanism and as a result take on the someone else’s as a means of empowering themselves. There’s a reason that Dove soap campaign is working.

  3. Hubbard August 31, 2010 at 12:45 PM


    When divorcing, it used to be the case that the now divorced woman would use her old married name, but would formally be known by both her maiden and married names. Thus, Sally Ball who married and then divorced John Holder could still be Mrs. Holder but would properly be Mrs. Ball Holder. She could not, of course, still be Mrs. John Holder. When children are involved, this makes sense: the Holder children usually don’t change their names.

    Now women do whatever.

    But if our now-divorced Sally had started a business, e.g., Holder & Associates, she may well want to use the hyphen to make plain that Sally Holder-Grabber is the owner, since it might be confusing if Holder & Associates was run by Sally Grabber.

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